Always creative! Puberty is a very intense period of life, especially for parents whose children have been diagnosed with ADHD. Exciting, challenging, exciting and varied on the one hand. Scary, stressful, complicated and exhausting on the other hand. In retrospect, ADHD often gives reason to smile and tell funny anecdotes during puberty.
But at the heart of the action, it often feels different. Between the ages of 12 and 18, the young people want to take a snare, develop their own identity and make new friends. This long-lasting and wave-moving development phase is determined, among other things, by the conversion of the hormone balance and strong physical changes. This is not without problems. Emotions and feelings ride a roller coaster, interests and hobbies sometimes change radically and the bond with the parents as the closest confidants becomes tense and conflict-prone. ADHD in puberty is a very special challenge, both for parents and for the affected children.
ADHD causes super-puberty
In boys and girls with ADHD, this process often begins a little later and ends at about 25 years of age. What is already a big challenge for normal adolescents can bring people with ADHD to their limits. They experience all changes, emotional fluctuations, helplessness or orientation questions more intensively and longer without getting answers to their questions.
Sometimes ADHD can become very difficult during puberty
In general, children treated with ADHD in particular often end later in puberty, stay childish for longer and grow more slowly, but without affecting final height.
Young people with ADHD often lack self-confidence, age-appropriate reflective capacity, and they continue to insist strongly on their own view of everyday life. This does not make dealing with them easy.
Other behaviors, such as a strong sense of justice, difficulties with accepting authorities, or occasional outbursts of anger and a lack of drive, also burden a harmonious coexistence. Complicating is a higher risk of addiction and probably a tendency to depressive moods.
Positive aspects of ADHD in puberty
Living with a young person affected by ADHD is not boring, nor is it easy. But it costs nerves – and without patience it is not possible.
Those who accept the challenge should always highlight the positive aspects of the disorder. Many parents only see the problems, which demotivates and makes them hopeless. Children and adolescents with AD(H)S are unique, curious, innovative and enriching in many areas.
Focusing on resources rather than deficits raises the quality of life for parents and children.
What happens with AD(H)S during puberty?
- The lack of filter and openness to the irritability means that a variety of information can be absorbed at the same time. The ADHD suffers so easily nothing, he perceives the environmental stimuli on a large scale.
- ADHDis are curious and inquisitive. You never get enough of new ideas, projects and people.
- “Thinking around the corner” and coming up with new, creative solutions is not unusual for people with ADHD during puberty. As they get bored quickly, their thoughts easily take different paths and examine unusual ideas.
- The impulsivity is a sign of his enthusiasm. He can react at lightning speed and with great empathy and is therefore often one of the first to help.
- The bounce of the thoughts of people with ADHD in puberty opens up a great creative potential. An ADHDist always sees new aspects and can inspire with his artistic view of things.
- The inner restlessness makes him work tirelessly on a task when it has to be and interesting, even throughout the night.
- The high sensitivity and his strong sense of justice make it possible to perceive injustices.
- The problems of social contact with other people, for example through impulsive expressions, strengthen his love for nature and animals.
- The inner chaos and the lack of constant attention stand for an interested openness to everything that happens around him.
- The joy of contact does not make the ADHD sufferer simmer ingenuising social misunderstandings, but allows new attempts again and again.
ADHD in puberty is a big issue
ADHD in puberty has been ubiquitous for many years, especially in the field of pedagogy and education. A new report chases the next one and every little information is discussed intensively in the newspapers or on the Internet. No wonder, if by now every 4! child in Germany has been diagnosed with ADHD at least once in his life.
Only allergies and obesity are similarly prevalent among childhood and adolescent diseases. Comparing with these diseases, the treatment of ADHD is complicated and complex. Eating less and differently or keeping away from allergenic substances is not enough here.
The family must “get” a child with ADHD during puberty
The whole family and the social environment must live with ADHD in puberty. Exhausted and exhausted parents, who usually manage a strenuous educational and educational work in addition to work and family without complaint every day. When the child enters puberty after a strenuous childhood, it often becomes even more tedious. At this point, however, many parents are already at the end of their strength. To confront super-puberty again with full energy requires a lot of respect again and again.
It is not uncommon for the family to have other demands, especially during the period of puberty of people with ADHD. Their own parents become frail and need help, the menopause begins and the years of professional stress take their toll. In this situation, families with a young person affected by ADHD can use any support. Criticism and exclusion, school reference or drop-out are not helpful.
Seeing puberty with ADHD with a laughing eye
If we succeed in not taking the negative aspects of the disorder too seriously and highlighting the positive ones, life will be easier for all involved. This is particularly true for educators and classmates.
Well-known artists (Eckardt von Hirschhausen, Benjamin von Stuckrad-Barre, Jamie Oliver or Paris Hilton) have succeeded in making positive use of the symptoms of the disorder. Quite a few claim that they would never have come this far without their AD(H)S. Why should our children and young people not succeed in this?