Highly sensitive children are often misunderstood

Howling or softie? Highly sensitive children have a fine sense of quiet discord, highly sensitive noses and ears and an impressive empathy. Their perceptual channels are wide open and allow all stimuli to pass through them unfiltered.

Is highly sensitive = difficult?

This has advantages and disadvantages. Parents of highly sensitive boys and girls know how to sing a song, because satisfying the special needs is exhausting and nerve-wracking.

Highly sensitive children are perceived by the environment as difficult, weeping and complicated. Quickly everything is too much for them, they are “mummy” and not resilient. Even at school, their “openness” is causing them problems.

Classrooms are full of distraction

They can be quickly distracted, react to injustices, and can hardly withstand bad moods. In order to concentrate well and for a long time, the environment must be optimal. And that’s hard to do in a classroom. No arguments, no noise and a generally good learning climate are scarce in schools.

Your child has overcome his fears, tried out the new clothes, can his fingernails be cut and registerin at class? Then you should acknowledge his performance. Words are important – but sometimes it can be a little more.

The Chocolate Monopoly fulfils various functions. They play together, enjoy a little sweetness and spend valuable quality time together. Take a look at this reward.

Example washing: Highly sensitive children don’t like this

Highly sensitive children don't like water

For most children, daily body care is normal. Without complaining big, they complete the normal cleaning program with some practice with their parents.

The situation is quite different for highly sensitive children. Their increased perceptual capacity and their openness to irritability mean that everyday things such as washing hair, bathing or showering can become an unpleasant challenge.

They don’t like water on their face or upside, they can’t withstand warm water temperatures and are simply afraid of losing control and drowning.

Don’t let your highly sensitive child suffer

Information and understanding are the keys to dealing with highly sensitive children. The families concerned have developed many ways to deal with the specificity of their children. Unfortunately, they are often very alone with this, because the phenomenon is still recognized by far not all children and burdens the everyday education.

Highly sensitive children

Television articles, newspaper reports and books help ensure that the special perception skills of highly sensitive people are not dismissed as spinning. Media are becoming aware and are beginning to investigate the phenomenon.

Science is also increasingly concerned with the study of people who describe themselves as particularly sensitive, sensitive or highly sensitive. She’s trying to figure out what the phenomenon is all about. Gradually, high sensitivity takes its place in society.

How to recognize a highly sensitive son

This book on highly sensitive boys and young men describes the special perceptions of the children and adolescents concerned, especially the boys, in their everyday life.

Many examples also show how highly sensitive boys manage their daily lives, how they can be helped and the potential of this particular form of perception.


These 12 behaviors speak for a high sensitivity

  1. Highly sensitive children feel feelings very intensely and deal with things for a long time. (Death Pet)
  2. Highly sensitive children show rich, emotional reactions, even to everyday things. (bad note hangs long after)
  3. They have a lot of compassion and more concern than others. (weather problems everywhere)
  4. Highly sensitive children are masters in referring things to themselves, taking them personally. (Questioning statements of others very intensely and pondering about it)
  5. It is difficult for them to make decisions, decisions are often overturned.
  6. They often make themselves reproaches, resent their mistakes, feel everything is worse. (Should have learned more, better prepare myself.)
  7. Highly sensitive children are in love with detail, the smallest details are perceived, they notice changes and recognize moods, good intuition.
  8. Their sensitivity to noise is high, a major stress factor, they are only getting used to recurrent noises.
  9. In individual sport they feel more comfortable than in team sports, they are not liked to be watched.
  10. Highly sensitive children have an aversion to violence, their great empathy makes them feel bad themselves, they watch little TV (films make them afraid).
  11. Highly sensitive children often have a pronounced social vein.
  12. They often have an extremely high level of self-reclaim and are rarely satisfied with themselves.
Highly sensitive
Dreamy or highly sensitive?

Excerpt from: Is our son highly sensitive?

Clothing is a permanent theme for highly sensitive children. Almost all of them have certain dislikes that they simply cannot overcome. Many do not tolerate scratchy materials on the skin, such as wool, felt or cord.

Synthetic fibres are also unpleasant to them. Even the smallest traces of a synthetic thread can cause severe discomfort, for example in seams or labels. For many people, this is incomprehensible, but the disorder is real. The list of dislikes is long and all parents of highly sensitive children can expand you.

Problems of highly sensitive children can be found in:

  • Zippers
  • Tights (too tight or too wide)
  • Sleeves (too short or too long)
  • Buttons are often rejected for years
  • Laces (most children wear shoes with Velcro)
  • Type of fabric (too scratchy or too firm)
  • Switching from summer to winter clothing
  • Hold in the shoes (must be the same for both feet)
  • Underwear must not press
  • Seams on the stockings, especially between the toes
  • It must not “flatter” on the body
  • Grain of sand in the shoes
  • Laundry slip in clothes
  • wet or dirty clothes
  • Wrinkles in clothing

Distraction can help

For some children, it helps to distract them when they are dressed. There are several ways to do this, for example, to tell something exciting or to change the room again and again when dressing, because clothes are in another room.

Highly sensitive boys

For example: Sascha has a strong aversion to buttons of all kinds. He doesn’t wear buttons, no shirts and no jackets. He can’t explain why he doesn’t like buttons. It almost seems as if he is afraid of it.

His parents have adjusted to this and buy him trousers with elastic, jackets with Velcro and T-shirts or sweatshirts. It only becomes problematic when Sascha needs special costumes for the performance in his theatre group.

Especially in the old fairy tales, Velcro fasteners on the costumes are not suitable. Every time there are intensive considerations about what clothes Sascha can wear in his role. Since everyone accepts Sascha speciality, fortunately there is always a solution.

Practical solutions

My tip: Be sure to take your child with you when buying clothes, so that they can try out in the shop whether everything is okay. Please do not try to dismiss your child’s feelings as nonsense.

Since highly sensitive children, both boys and girls, can feel really disturbed by clothing, they will not give in. Avoid power games, but leave it to your child what they want to wear. Once, however, you have decided to stay as consistent as possible.

Source: Is our son highly sensitive? by Uta Reimann-Höhn